Lessons For Life

February 26, 2008

THE CROSS

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A young man died and was proceeding to heaven with his cross on the back. Fatigued with the weight of his cross, he dropped to his knees in prayer. “Lord, I can’t go on,” he said. “I have too heavy a cross to bear.” The Lord replied, “My son, if you can’t bear its weight, just place your cross inside this room. Then, open that other door and pick out any cross you wish.” The man was filled with relief. “Thank you, Lord,” he sighed, and entered the room. Upon entering the other door, he saw many crosses, some so large their heads were not visible. Then, he spotted a tiny cross leaning against a far wall. “I’d like that one, Lord,” he whispered. And the Lord replied, “My son that is the cross you just brought in.”

When life’s problems seem overwhelming, it helps to look around and see what other people are coping with. And you may end up realising that you are far more fortunate than you imagined. All of us have our own burdens to bear; some of us can endure the cross, while others succumb to the hardships. We always feel that the other’s life is better, but it is only when you probe deeper into their life do you come to know of their realities.

Wise Words

Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.
Isaac Asimov

When I pass, speak freely of my shortcomings and my flaws. Learn from them, for I’ll have no ego to injure.
Aaron McGruder

February 22, 2008

TAKE OFF THE MASK

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Once upon a time there was a bunch of people who lived in a place called Fantasy Land. Their life was a big fantasy with all of them pretending to be all sorts of characters all the time. Slowly these fantasies slowly overpowered their mind, to the extent that they forgot the difference between reality and fiction. They even stopped taking off their masks and soon these became their real faces. One day a magician arrived and put up a notice stating: ‘Free demonstration of Miracle Mask Remover. Guaranteed to remove masks with continued application.’ Though everyone saw the notice, very few turned up for the demo, for hardly did anyone even remember that were wearing masks. “You’ve worn your masks for so long, that you don’t even know you have them on anymore. Use this remover everyday and your masks will eventually fall off,” said the magician to his attendees. Though some of the people felt that the wise man had a good product, they were not convinced that their faces were false. As a result some of them did not use the remover. But those who did saw the promised results and finally their real face surfaced. They felt a peace on seeing their real selves again and left Fantasy World for the better.

All of us face the world wearing a mask and hiding our real faces. But it is important to connect with yourself everyday. Agreed that our daily grind demands us to behave in a certain way, but then it is necessary to switch off and unwind at least once you are home. Otherwise the day is not far when you shall forget being yourself and will stop connecting with your family members and loved ones and most importantly your soul. You may just fade into nothingness assuming the identity of a being that is so far away from the real you. So go out on date with yourself once in while, chat with yourself and admire yourself in the mirror to remind you of who you really are.


Wise Words

Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.
Cyril Connolly

That you may retain your self-respect, it is better to displease the people by doing what you know is right, than to temporarily please them by doing what you know is wrong.
William J. H. Boetcker

THE SALTY COFFEE

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A guy and a girl met at a party. At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him. They sat in a nice coffee shop but he was too nervous to say anything. Suddenly the guy asked the waiter for some salt to add to his coffee. Curious the girl asked him about this unique habit. “As a child, I lived near the sea. I could feel the taste of the salt in everything. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood and I miss my parents who are still living there,” he explained. Deeply moved by the guy’s simplicity the girl furthered the conversation and one day they got married. Every morning she lovingly prepared his morning coffee with salt instead of sugar, the way he liked it. After forty years, he died and he left her a letter stating, “My dearest, please forgive me for the only lie I told u all my life – the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I promised not to lie to you about anything. But before we part I wanted to tell you this. I never did like the salty coffee, but I’ve had it looking at your sweet smile. If I can live for the second time, I would still come back and have the salty coffee for whole life again if you make it for me.

Love is selfless, it believes in finding happiness in the one you love.


Wise Words

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Samuel Butler

I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

Rita Rudner

GIVE AND TAKE

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An old man moved in with his son, daughter-in-law and an eight-year old grandson. It was customary to eat dinner together, but soon it family throwing fits of temper if the old man joined in. the reason – his shaky hands and failing sight caused peas to roll off his spoon onto the floor and often milk spilled out from his glass. “We must do something about grandfather,” said the boy, “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating and dropping food on the floor.” Agreeing to their son’s wishes, next day the couple set a small table in the corner for the old man. Thereafter, grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner at the table and since his shaky hands had resulted in the breakage of a dish or two, he was served in a wooden bowl. The grandson would often glance in him and see a tear or two drop from his eye, but would only smirk in reply. A few days later, the eight-year old brought out a carpentry kit and started making something. When asked what he was doing he replied, “I’m making a bowl for you papa. Like you’ve given one to your father, I’ll also present this you when you are old, so that my son has no reason to complain about you.”

Children are remarkably receptive. They learn what the parents teach them. If they see you patiently provide and care for your parents, they too will grow up to be giving and caring human beings. They imbibe your attitude and will treat you back the same way for the rest of their lives. So be careful to set a good example for them.


Wise Words

You don’t pay back your parents. You can’t. The debt you owe them gets collected by your children, who hand it down in turn.
Lois McMaster Bujold

We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give.
Sir Winston Churchill

DON’T INTERFERE

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One day a man found a cocoon of a butterfly. A few days later a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further. So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time, but neither happened. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening was Nature’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Nature has everything planned for us and at times the struggles we go through, is Nature’s way of preparing us for future hardships. Let Nature take its own course and things will eventually fall in place. Don’t interfere in its plan for you never know when it backfires on you and results in damage for life.

Wise Words

Nature is just enough; but men and women must comprehend and accept her suggestions.
Antoinette Brown Blackwell


Nature magically suits a man to his fortunes, by making them the fruit of his character.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

BE GRATEFUL

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A good soul reached heaven and was being shown around by an angel. The first section was the Receiving Section where all prayers were received. It was a terribly busy department with a lot of angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world. The second section was the Packaging and Delivery Section where graces and blessings were processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them. Again it was a busy department with so many graces being sent out. Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor there was a tiny room, which surprisingly has only one angel, who was sitting idle. “This is the Acknowledgment Section,” said the angel guide. A little embarrassed at the lack of work going on here he explained, “After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments, even though it’s so simple. All you have to do is say ‘thank you God’ for all the blessing you’ve received. “What blessings should they acknowledge?” asked the soul. “If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75 per cent of this world. If you have more health than illness, you’re more blessed than the many who will not even survive the day. If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you’re unique to all those in doubt and despair. And you should be grateful to God for these blessings.

Not everyone is as blessed as you are. So remember to thank God for his small mercies, for there are many out there who don’t get even the basic necessities in life and often die of hunger or illness.

Wise Words

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.
Albert Schweitzer

Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.
Buddha

February 21, 2008

STOP AND LISTEN

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Raj, a young and very successful executive, had just bought his first Mercedes and was joyfully driving it around the city. Suddenly a brick sailed out and – thump – it smashed into the Merc’s back glass. Loosing his temper, Raj slammed the brakes and spun his car around to where the culprit, a 10-year-old child stood. “What the hell do you think you’re doing?” he yelled, adding “That’s my new Merc and that brick you threw is gonna cost you a lot of money. Why did you throw it?” The kid was in tears and explained. “I’m sorry but I didn’t know what else to do! I threw the brick because otherwise you wouldn’t stop. It’s about my brother. He’s crippled and moves around in a wheel chair. He’s rolled off the curb and is hurt. He’s too heavy for me and I can’t lift him. Please help me,” he pleaded. Moved beyond words, the young executive tried desperately to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. Straining, he lifted the young man back into the wheelchair and took out his handkerchief and wiped the scrapes and cuts, checking to see that everything fine. He then watched the younger brother push him down the sidewalk toward their home. Raj decide to retain the glass pieces as a reminder not to go so fast that someone has to throw a brick at him to get his attention.

We’ve started living a fast paced life and little stop to see that along the way we miss out on someone who may need our help. Don’t run so fast that you stop being compassionate and empathetic towards others. Who knows, when you call out for help may be there’ll be no one to hear.

Wise Words

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
The Dalai Lama

Wars begin in the minds of man, and in those minds, love and compassion would have built the defenses of peace.
U Thant

ATTENTION PLEASE

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The paradox of our time is that we’ve wider highways, but narrower viewpoints; we buy more but enjoy it less. We’ve more conveniences, but less time; we’ve more degrees, but less sense. We laugh too little, get angry too quickly, read too little, watch too much TV and pray too seldom. We love too little and hate too often. We’ve been to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a friend. We build more computers but have less communication. We’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice. It’s an era of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes. These are the days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw away morality, one night stands, overweight bodies and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. We may have learnt to make a living, but can’t make a life; we’ve added years to life but not life to the years.

In the past 60 years, India may have seen a growth of economics, but there’s also a decline of humanity. We don’t stop to help an injured person lying on the wayside. Sitting in the comfort of our homes we crib about our politicians, even though many of us don’t go and vote. When gutters get flooded in the rains we blame the municipal authorities for not cleaning, fast forgetting that we didn’t throw the garbage into a dustbin. We complain of corrupt officials, when we’re the ones who encourage bribing. If you wish to see your country developed, get up and perform your duties instead of saying, “Is desh ka kuch nai ho sakta.” This is true patriotism, not enjoying a movie on Bhagat Singh or Gandhiji while sipping a cup of tea and munching pakodas and thanking the office for an extra holiday. Remember, no nation is perfect, it has to be made perfect.

Wise Words

Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.
Mahatma Gandhi

Failure comes only when we forget our ideals and objectives and principles.
Jawaharal Nehru

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